Com by Dame

Com by Dame reimagines the classic wand vibrator with a body-friendly design built for real comfort. The curved handle makes it easy to grip during extended sessions, while the flexible neck contours to your curves and lets you rest your arm as you hold the toy at the perfect angle — no awkward straining required. Inside, a strong motor delivers a deep, satisfying rumble across five vibration levels and five vibration patterns, all adjustable via the on-handle buttons. Once positioned, Com can be used completely hands-free — rested on a pillow, a folded towel, between your thighs, or in your lap — making it as versatile as it is powerful. The silicone head provides broad external coverage that is especially effective for clitoral stimulation, and the toy is fully rechargeable and waterproof.

Com by Dame features:

• Body-safe silicone construction
• Strong motor with deep, rumbly vibration quality
• 5 vibration levels for gradual intensity building
• 5 vibration patterns for varied sensation
• Flexible neck that contours to body curves
• Curved handle for comfortable, ergonomic hold
• Button controls on the handle
• Hands-free use after initial placement
• Rechargeable via magnetic USB charging ports
• Fully waterproof

Specifications / Size & material

• Dimensions: 10.5 in x 1.8 in / 26.7 cm x 4.6 cm
• Material: Body-safe silicone
• Body safety: Silicone is non-porous, phthalate-free, and body-safe — an excellent choice for external use
• Power: Rechargeable (magnetic USB)
• Water resistance: Waterproof
• Controls: On-handle buttons
• Vibration levels: 5
• Vibration patterns: 5

Intensity & Experience Level

Level: Beginner to Intermediate — Sensation: Deep rumbly vibration / broad external pressure

Com is genuinely approachable for first-time wand users thanks to its low starting intensity and simple button controls, yet its strong motor and pattern range mean experienced players will find plenty to explore. The hands-free options and ergonomic handle make it forgiving for those with limited mobility or strength, though users who fatigue easily should note that active holding over long periods may be tiring — the resting and grinding positions are ideal workarounds.

Who is this product for?

• Clitoral stimulation enthusiasts: Anyone who craves deep, broad, rumbly vibrations delivered across a wide head area.
• Beginners: First-time wand users who want a straightforward, comfortable, body-safe toy with intuitive controls and a gentle starting intensity.
• Experienced wand users: Players who want a powerful motor, multiple patterns, and the flexibility to explore hands-free positioning.
• People with limited mobility or flexibility: The long curved handle, flexible neck, and hands-free capability reduce the need for sustained arm strength or precise positioning.
• People exploring bottom dysphoria-friendly play: The extended handle creates natural distance between the hand and genitals, which can be affirming and comfortable for trans and non-binary users.
• Couples and partner play: Anyone who wants a toy that integrates easily into partnered sex, oral play, or shared control scenarios.

How to use the Com Wand Vibrator?

1. Charge fully before first use — connect the USB cable to the magnetic charging ports and charge until complete.
2. Apply water-based lubricant to external areas such as the clitoris, nipples, or perineum for added comfort and sensation.
3. Power on by pressing and holding the handle button for 2 seconds, then cycle through intensities and patterns to find your starting point.
4. Start on the lowest setting and build up slowly — this helps avoid overwhelming sensitive areas and lets you tune in to what feels best.
5. Place the wand head against the desired area and experiment with angle and pressure until it feels just right.
6. Comfort checkpoint: If direct contact feels too intense, try using the toy through a thin layer of fabric such as underwear or light pajamas to soften the sensation.
7. Go hands-free if desired — rest the toy on your body, a pillow, a folded towel, or between your thighs and grind against it for a fully supported experience.
8. To stop or power off, press and hold the button for 2 seconds until the motor ceases.

Techniques & ways to play

• Solo — on your back: Lay down and place Com between your thighs or over a pillow for supported, resting stimulation with minimal arm effort.
• Solo — seated grind: Sit on a couch or chair, position the wand head beneath you, and grind for hands-free clitoral stimulation.
• Solo — towel trick: Fold a towel around the head and grind on top for truly hands-free pleasure with added pressure.
• Solo — warm-up tip: Warm the silicone under a blanket or towel before use to avoid the cold-silicone surprise against skin.
• Solo — handle orientation: Hold from the top of the handle for precise, directed control, or rest the handle against your inner thigh for a grinding angle.
• Partnered — added vibration during sex: A partner holds or positions Com against the clitoris during penetration or oral sex for layered sensation.
• Partnered — erogenous zone teasing: Use the broad head on nipples, inner thighs, perineum, or the back of the neck as part of foreplay or sensory exploration.
• Dom/sub dynamic: Hand control of the vibration settings to your partner — letting them choose the level and pattern builds anticipation and connection. Always negotiate intensity limits and establish a stop signal before play begins.

Pairs well with / Complete the scene

• Water-based lubricant: Required for use with silicone toys — a good water-based formula extends comfort and protects the toy's finish.
• Toy cleaner spray: A dedicated toy-safe cleaner makes post-session care quick and thorough.
• Blindfold or restraints: Removing visual cues while a partner controls the intensity heightens anticipation and sensation.
• Positioning pillow or wedge: A firm wedge or Liberator-style pillow supports hands-free grinding positions and reduces fatigue.
• Collections to explore: Dame vibrator collection; Wand vibrators at The BDSM Store.

How to clean and care

• Cleaning: Rinse with warm water and mild soap or use a dedicated toy cleaner; be gentle around the magnetic charging ports to avoid moisture damage.
• Drying: Pat down with a clean, lint-free towel and allow to air dry completely before storing.
• Lubricant compatibility: Water-based lubricants only — silicone-based formulas can degrade the silicone surface over time.
• Storage: Keep in a clean, dry place away from direct sunlight and do not store in contact with other silicone toys, as silicone-on-silicone contact can cause surface deterioration.

Additional information

• Versatility: Suitable for solo use, partner play, and targeted teasing of erogenous zones including nipples, perineum, and inner thighs.
• Stimulation type: Designed exclusively for external stimulation — the broad wand head is especially powerful for clitoral-focused play.
• Accessibility: The long, curved handle and flexible neck reduce the need for precise grip or sustained arm strength; the hands-free options (resting on a surface, between thighs, in the lap) make it accessible for users with limited flexibility or endurance.
• Higher-intensity needs: The strong motor may be well suited for users who experience reduced or diminished sensation and require more powerful stimulation.
• Body inclusivity: Wands work on any body, making Com easy to share with partners of varying anatomy.
• Dysphoria-friendly design: The extended handle places natural distance between the user's hand and their genitals, which can be affirming for trans and non-binary users managing bottom dysphoria.

Special considerations / warnings

• Hand mobility required: Using or repositioning the toy requires an active grasp and basic hand mobility or dexterity; those with significant hand or wrist limitations may need assistance.
• Button dexterity: Cycling through levels and patterns requires dexterity to operate the handle button; assistance from a partner may help.
• Charging assistance: Connecting the magnetic USB charger may require some dexterity — a partner or caregiver may need to assist.
• Fatigue note: Users who fatigue easily may find extended active holding tiring; the hands-free positioning options (resting on a pillow, grinding against a towel) are strongly recommended to reduce strain.
• External use only: Com is designed for external stimulation and should not be used for internal penetration.
• Silicone care: Do not use silicone-based lubricants; do not store against other silicone items.
• Waterproof but not submersible indefinitely: While waterproof, avoid prolonged submersion and always ensure the charging port is fully dry before connecting the charger.

18+ only. For consensual adult use.