Collection: Vibrating dildos

How do I choose the right vibrating dildo for my power-exchange play?

Start by considering your role and intention. Dominants often favour toys with external controls or remote capabilities so they can dictate stimulation without their partner needing to touch the toy at all. Submissives or those new to power exchange may want something with a gentler entry point in terms of size and intensity. Key things to weigh up include:

• Size and insertable length - begin modest if you are new, and work up gradually.
• Vibration patterns and intensity levels - more settings give you greater control over escalation during a scene.
• Remote or app control - ideal for long-distance dynamics or hands-free dominance play.
• Noise level - quieter motors are worth considering if discretion during play matters to you.

Always negotiate with your partner which features will be used and which are off the table before your scene begins.

What materials are body-safe for vibrating dildos?

Body safety is non-negotiable. Look for toys made from non-porous materials, which cannot harbour bacteria and are easy to sterilise. The gold standard options are:

• Medical-grade silicone - soft, flexible, and completely body-safe.
• Stainless steel - firm, weighty, and fully sterilisable.
• Borosilicate glass - smooth, non-reactive, and temperature-play friendly.

Avoid toys labelled simply as rubber, jelly, or PVC unless they are covered with a condom during use. If you are unsure about a material, check the product listing or contact us directly before purchasing.

How should I negotiate using a vibrating dildo in a BDSM scene?

Open, honest negotiation before any scene is essential. Discuss the following with your partner ahead of time:

• Which speeds, patterns, and durations are within agreed limits.
• Whether the dominant will control the toy entirely or the submissive retains override ability.
• A clear, unambiguous safeword or safe signal, particularly important if the submissive may be restrained or unable to speak freely.
• Any physical sensitivities, medical considerations, or hard limits around internal use or vibration intensity.

Consent is ongoing. Check in with your partner during the scene and honour any safeword immediately and without question.

How do I clean and care for my vibrating dildo?

Proper cleaning protects both partners and extends the life of your toy. Follow these general guidelines:

• After every use - wash with warm water and a dedicated toy cleaner or mild unscented soap.
• Non-motorised silicone, steel, and glass toys - can be boiled or run through a dishwasher on the top rack without detergent to fully sterilise.
• Motorised vibrating toys - never submerge unless the product is specifically rated as fully waterproof. Wipe down carefully instead.
• Storage - keep your toy in a lint-free pouch or dedicated storage bag, away from other toys that could degrade the material.

Always check the care instructions provided with your specific product, as recommendations can vary.

What does aftercare look like when vibrating dildos are part of a scene?

Aftercare is just as important as the scene itself, especially when power exchange and intense stimulation are involved. After play, both partners may benefit from:

• Physical comfort such as blankets, water, snacks, or gentle touch.
• Verbal reassurance and reconnection, particularly if the submissive experienced vulnerability or overwhelm.
• A calm, pressure-free space to decompress and come back to an equal footing.
• A check-in conversation, either immediately or the following day, about what felt good and what you might adjust next time.

Dominants may also need aftercare. Caring for a partner through an intense scene can be emotionally demanding, and your needs are equally valid.