Strap-on sets

Complete strap-on kits designed for those who crave full control or complete surrender. Every set pairs a body-safe dildo with an adjustable, reinforced harness so you can focus entirely on the exchange of power rather than fumbling with gear. Premium materials and secure O-ring mounts mean confidence never wavers, no matter who is giving the commands.

From first-time explorers to experienced scene partners, these kits offer a seamless entry into penetrative power play. Slip into the harness, set the terms, and let every consensual moment unfold exactly as you intend.

Buying guide

What should I look for when choosing a strap-on kit as a beginner?

Start with a kit that includes an adjustable harness, a clearly sized dildo on the smaller end, and an O-ring system that lets you swap out attachments as your confidence grows. Look for wide, padded waistbands and thigh straps for stability and comfort during longer scenes. A universal O-ring (typically 1.5 to 2 inches) gives you the most flexibility to expand your toy collection later without replacing the entire harness.

What materials are body-safe for the dildo that comes in a strap-on kit?

Always prioritise non-porous materials for insertable components. These include:

  • Medical-grade silicone - soft, flexible, and easy to sterilise
  • Borosilicate glass - firm, temperature-play compatible, and non-porous
  • Stainless steel - heavy, durable, and fully sterilisable

Avoid jellies, PVC, or materials labelled only as "rubber" or "latex blend" for insertable use, as these can be porous and may harbour bacteria even after cleaning. Harness hardware such as rings and buckles is typically nylon, leather, or vegan leather, all of which are safe for external wear.

How do we negotiate using a strap-on kit with a new partner?

Negotiation before any strap-on scene is essential and builds trust as much as it builds anticipation. Discuss which partner will wear the harness and which will receive, preferred positions, any physical limitations such as hip or back sensitivity, and the pace you both want to set. Agree on clear safewords or signals before you begin, especially if either partner is new to penetrative power exchange. Checking in during the scene is just as important as the conversation beforehand.

How do I clean and care for my strap-on harness and dildo?

Care depends on the specific materials, but general guidance applies to most kits:

  • Silicone dildos - wash with warm water and mild soap, or boil for 3 to 5 minutes if they have no vibrating components. You can also run them through the top rack of a dishwasher without detergent.
  • Leather harnesses - wipe down with a damp cloth and use a leather conditioner to prevent cracking. Never submerge in water.
  • Vegan leather or nylon harnesses - hand wash with mild soap and allow to air dry fully before storing to prevent mildew.

Always allow all components to dry completely before storing them together to maintain both hygiene and material integrity.

What does aftercare look like after a strap-on scene?

Aftercare is a valued part of any power-exchange experience and looks different for every partnership. For the receiving partner, this might include gentle physical comfort, hydration, or simply quiet closeness. The partner who wore the harness may also need emotional grounding after holding a dominant or active role. Check in with each other about physical sensations, emotional responses, and anything you would like to adjust for next time. Aftercare is not an optional extra but an integral part of a healthy and fulfilling scene.