Collection: Prostate toys & massagers

How do I choose between a vibrating and a non-vibrating prostate massager?

The choice comes down to the type of stimulation you and your partner are seeking. Non-vibrating massagers rely on manual movement, body positioning, and pressure to target the prostate, giving the person in control precise, tactile command over sensation. Vibrating models add a layer of motorised intensity that can produce continuous, hands-free stimulation and are popular for longer scenes or when the dominant partner wants to keep their submissive in a sustained state of arousal. Beginners often find a firm, non-vibrating design easier to learn with before introducing vibration patterns.

What materials are body-safe for internal prostate play?

For any toy that enters the body, material safety is non-negotiable. Look for:

• Medical-grade silicone - non-porous, flexible, and easy to sterilise.
• Stainless steel - non-porous, weighty, and compatible with all lubricants.
• Borosilicate glass - non-porous, smooth, and temperature-play friendly.
• Hard ABS plastic - non-porous and firm; commonly used in vibrating devices.

Avoid porous materials such as rubber, jelly, or PVC for internal use, as they can harbour bacteria and are difficult to clean thoroughly.

What lubricant should I use with a prostate massager?

The anal canal does not self-lubricate, so generous lubricant application is essential for comfort and safety. Use a thick, water-based lubricant with silicone toys, as silicone-based lubricants can degrade silicone surfaces over time. Silicone-based lubricant is an excellent choice for stainless steel or glass toys and tends to last longer. Always reapply as needed throughout a scene, and never use oil-based lubricants with latex barriers.

How should prostate massagers be cleaned and stored?

Proper cleaning protects both partners and extends the life of the toy. Non-porous toys made from stainless steel or borosilicate glass can be boiled, run through a dishwasher on a hot cycle without detergent, or wiped with a 10% bleach solution and rinsed thoroughly. Medical-grade silicone toys without a motor can also be boiled or bleach-cleaned. Vibrating toys with electronics should be washed with warm water and a dedicated toy cleaner, keeping the charging port away from water. Always dry toys completely before storing them in individual fabric pouches or cases to prevent cross-contamination and surface damage.

How do we negotiate prostate play safely within a power-exchange dynamic?

Open, honest negotiation before any scene is the foundation of ethical BDSM. Discuss boundaries, limits, and desires clearly while both parties are in a calm, grounded headspace. Agree on a safeword or a non-verbal signal such as a hand squeeze if a gag or restraint is involved. Talk through the level of control the dominant partner will have, how long the scene may last, and any physical considerations such as sensitivity or prior discomfort. After the scene, prioritise aftercare, which may include warmth, reassurance, hydration, and time to reconnect, to support the emotional and physical transition back from an intense experience.