Strap-on dildos

Strap-on dildos are instruments of deliberate, consensual control — letting the dominant lead the scene and the submissive surrender completely. Our collection spans realistic textures, bold abstract forms, and everything in between, all crafted from body-safe materials and built to pair seamlessly with your favorite harness.

Whether you are exploring role reversal, deepening a power-exchange dynamic, or simply expanding your shared pleasure, these harness-compatible pieces put exactly the right sensation in exactly the right hands. Find your fit and take the scene where you want it to go.

Buying guide

How do I choose the right strap-on dildo for my harness?

The most important factor is the O-ring size on your harness. Most harnesses use a standard O-ring and are compatible with dildos that have a flared base measuring between 1.5 and 2 inches in diameter. Check your harness specifications and match them to the base diameter of the dildo you are considering. Beyond compatibility, think about length and girth that suits both partners, and whether you prefer a realistic shape or something more abstract and toy-like. If you are new to strap-on play, starting with a slimmer, shorter dildo gives both partners time to build confidence and communication before progressing to something larger.

What materials are body-safe for strap-on dildos?

Body-safe materials are non-porous, free from harmful chemicals, and easy to keep clean. The most trusted options include:

  • Medical-grade silicone - soft, flexible, and completely non-porous
  • Hard ABS plastic - rigid, smooth, and non-porous
  • Borosilicate glass - non-porous and compatible with any lubricant
  • Stainless steel - heavy, non-porous, and temperature-responsive

Avoid materials labeled as rubber, jelly, or PVC, as these are porous and can harbour bacteria even after cleaning. When in doubt, the product description will indicate body-safe certification or material grade.

What lubricant should I use with a strap-on dildo?

Lubricant choice depends on the material of the dildo. For silicone dildos, always use a water-based lubricant, as silicone-based lubes can degrade the surface of silicone toys over time. For glass, stainless steel, or ABS plastic dildos, water-based or silicone-based lubricants are both safe options. Generous lubrication is strongly recommended for all strap-on play, particularly for anal penetration, where the body does not self-lubricate. Reapply as needed throughout your scene and check in with your partner regularly about comfort and sensation.

How should I negotiate and communicate before strap-on play?

Open negotiation before the scene is the foundation of enjoyable strap-on play. Discuss boundaries, desired sensations, and any physical limitations with your partner beforehand. Agree on a safeword or a nonverbal signal such as tapping out, which allows either partner to pause or stop the scene instantly and without question. Talk through roles - who is wearing, who is receiving, and whether those roles are fixed or fluid. Checking in during the scene, especially when trying a new size or position, keeps the experience pleasurable and builds trust between dominant and submissive partners alike.

How do I clean and store my strap-on dildo?

Cleaning method depends on the material. Non-porous silicone, glass, and stainless steel dildos without electronic components can be sterilized by boiling for three to five minutes, running through a dishwasher on the top rack without detergent, or wiping down with a 10 percent bleach solution followed by a thorough rinse. ABS plastic should be cleaned with warm water and mild antibacterial soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. Always allow the dildo to dry fully before storing it. Keep each toy in its own breathable pouch or storage bag to prevent materials from reacting with one another, and store away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures.