Collection: Pegging toys

How do I choose the right harness and dildo size for pegging?

Fit and compatibility are everything. Start by measuring the wearer's hips for the harness, looking for adjustable straps that accommodate a wide range of body sizes so the harness stays secure and comfortable during play. For the dildo, beginners should choose a slim, smooth option with a gentle curve targeting the prostate or internal walls. More experienced players can explore wider girths, pronounced textures, or longer lengths. Most harnesses accept an O-ring attachment, so check the O-ring diameter of the harness against the base diameter of your chosen dildo before purchasing.

What materials are body-safe for pegging toys?

Body safety is non-negotiable. For dildos, prioritise non-porous materials such as:

• Body-safe silicone - the gold standard, hypoallergenic, and easy to sterilise
• Borosilicate glass - firm, smooth, and fully non-porous
• Stainless steel or aluminium - ideal for temperature play and simple to clean

Avoid jelly rubber, PVC, or any toy labelled simply as "rubber" or "latex-free" without further clarification, as these materials can harbour bacteria and may contain plasticisers that irritate sensitive tissue. For harnesses, look for genuine leather, vegan leather, or nylon with reinforced stitching at stress points.

How should we negotiate and prepare for a pegging scene?

Consent and communication are the foundation of any power-exchange dynamic. Before your scene, have an open conversation that covers:

• Clear boundaries and any activities that are off the table
• Agreed safewords or non-verbal signals, especially if the receiving partner may be restrained
• Comfort with pace, depth, and the level of dominance or submission desired
• Any physical considerations such as health conditions, recent surgery, or sensitivity

Use generous amounts of anal-safe lubricant throughout, as unlike the vagina the anus does not self-lubricate. Begin slowly and check in verbally as you progress. Dominance in a pegging scene is always built on the trust and ongoing enthusiastic consent of both partners.

Is pegging suitable for complete beginners, and how do we work up to it?

Absolutely, with the right preparation. If neither partner has experience with anal play, it is worth incorporating solo warm-up practices first. The receiving partner can become familiar with the sensations using fingers or a small anal training plug over several sessions before moving to strap-on play. This builds both physical comfort and emotional confidence. Choose a beginner-oriented harness with clear size guidance and a slim dildo, and treat the first session as exploratory rather than performance-focused. Patience and humour go a long way.

How do I clean and store pegging toys safely?

Proper cleaning protects both partners between sessions and extends the life of your gear.

• Non-motorised silicone, glass, and steel dildos can be boiled, run through a dishwasher on the top rack (without detergent), or wiped with a 10 percent bleach solution, then rinsed thoroughly.
• Any dildo used with a condom should still be washed with warm water and mild soap after use.
• Harnesses should be wiped down with a damp cloth and antibacterial toy cleaner, then air-dried fully before storage to prevent mildew, especially in leather.
• Store dildos in individual cloth bags or the original packaging to prevent silicone-on-silicone contact, which can degrade the surface over time.

What does aftercare look like following a pegging scene?

Aftercare is as important as the scene itself, particularly when significant power exchange is involved. After play, check in with each other physically and emotionally. Practically, the receiving partner may appreciate time to rest, gentle physical comfort such as warmth or a light snack, and reassurance. The giver may also need emotional grounding after holding a dominant role. Take time to discuss what felt good and what you might adjust next time. This debrief strengthens trust and ensures both partners feel valued beyond the scene itself.